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 Posted - November 04 2013 : 06:18:29 AM
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Guys,
Please see my website.....its in my signature. Post any comments here!
~John
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 08:23:08 AM
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John, sorry to hear of your ill health. I hope you recover quickly and completely.
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 08:57:14 AM
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Don,
Its not that I wanted too, its more or less, I'm not handling the stress as I once did and as time passes the "stress" factory isn't proving to improve, if that makes any sense....
And those few, how to say it nicely.....No one here mind you.... The whole "TYCO Forums" membership are all caring and understand people, its others that have found the website, seen the posting in red on EVERY page that gets relentless, on any one given thing, and then for me to say, I am not open for business, (but, can you sell me this "XXXX" item anyway I need it badly).....And then to say, I can't and won't, as whatever reason, not feeling well, the over doing it, doesn't go well for days later.....And then, the last thing, is possible heart-attack (I just DON'T like the sound of that last one!)
But that whole, "push the envelope"....I just can't take it no more!
HOWEVER on the bright side? I will continue to model, I WILL continue to trade, and I WILL continue.....Just "YTR" won't! ALL of this a nice side-effect.... at my own pace!
Don't get me wrong tho, my health isn't "bad" but Its just something I've noticed, that has a trend, taking a bit more difficult to bounce back from stress, and that's the one thing, I have to cut down on if not completely all of it, or well as much as I can.....I mean, really, I'm not dying here, I just don't want to push that issue if I can help it...
~John
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Do NOT try to Idiot-Proof anything!!!! God, will simply create a better......IDIOT!
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 Posted - November 04 2013 : 09:07:21 AM
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John,
I hope you recover from your surgery well, and that you find the time for your hobby - and for yourself. What you have spoken of on your personal/business website has crept into virtually every aspect of life now, and I am not a subscriber, either. Good for you!
Like you, I had to step away and unplug, regroup, focus, and realize what is truly important in this world.
Have a good one, and enjoy your time! 
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 10:17:11 AM
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darn  Oh well long as I get MY stuff I'll be happy 
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 11:55:04 AM
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quote:John,
I hope you recover from your surgery well, and that you find the time for your hobby - and for yourself. What you have spoken of on your personal/business website has crept into virtually every aspect of life now, and I am not a subscriber, either. Good for you!
Like you, I had to step away and unplug, regroup, focus, and realize what is truly important in this world.
Have a good one, and enjoy your time!
The Old Reliable
Originally posted by theoldreliable - November 04 2013 : 09:07:21 AM
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What he said 
John, I think you made a wise decision. Take care of YOU and recover...and enjoy this hobby.
http://tycodepot.com/
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 3:07:29 PM
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Thanks guys! Its just time to take a break, take a step back, and realize, what is any of it, if none of it is going anymore? I mean health, is well what we all need to live this hobby and enjoy it, and once it becomes un-enjoyable from pressure and stress, is it really worth it? Specially when the stress has gotten to a point that, well, I'm not handling it well any more and that's what I'm to be avoiding to start with, in my recovery....A few recent issues crept up and thought, maybe, just maybe, it was just a fluke..... After that fluke happens just about everyday for 3 weeks......... Time to re-think that idea on whats truly going on....you know?
Ben, my friend, no. Your fine! Believe me, when I said everyone here was enjoyable company, I didn't say it for my health (or actually, I did....) you guys take me "away" from the issues that brought me into this all. wheather its the "elders" of the forums here poking you as the "Resident Spammer" or Nelson and I going back and forth in a PM on any one issue we talk of, its ALL fun....And takes that "pain" of sorts out of the day..... THAT is what it should be........ and then the fun of .......*gulp* trading,. I'm an addict to it and love the "on the edge of your seat" it leaves me......THAT isn't stress! THATS enjoyable !
But its those people (look at my signature............. The 2 phrases says it all... and on a 3 week basis, that's what I been dealing with.....people to contact me, to buy this or that, and to hear me say, I'm sorry, but I'm not opne for business yet, but ,but, but, you can seel me "A", "B", "C", or "D" without being open and then in cash money, you don't have to claim it. WELL, when they hear that I refuse, they take it to the hilt, and then have the gull to tell me I'm a lousy business man, when they knew in the first place, I wasn't open for business, and then, and only then, try to get my WIFE involved? Well, let me tell ya that went over well with her too, (I didn't hear it, they did... And I hear she tell someone over the phone, haven't you got any sense? He's recovering from surgery, he hasn't been released from the doctors yet, and isn't open? I'm not sure what she all said to them, on the phone, locally, but at the point of hearing her in rage of something they said to her....WELL. then its time to rethink it all a bit, is it really worth it? All is well tho....I'm just taking precautions to prevent the worse....
~John
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Do NOT try to Idiot-Proof anything!!!! God, will simply create a better......IDIOT!
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 4:36:52 PM
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John,
I wasn't aware that you weren't back up to speed after the surgery, but it makes sense that it could knock the wind out of you for some time. Perhaps you bit off more than you could chew... understandable when you're trying to make a buck. If you do start the business up again, I suggest limiting the number of jobs you accept to an amount you feel you can handle.
Good to know all our kibitzing has done some good!
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 4:53:43 PM
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Obviously some people don't understand what it takes out of you when you have a health hit, they are thinking, a couple weeks, he should be ok, and don't understand the long-term effects as we get older. My wife just quit her job <full time> due to stress, both from the work, her boss, and a hostile co-worker. I'm hoping things will work out here! As for you, John, take care of yourself, you have to think of yourself first now, and finish off the business you had, and then just do for yourself for awhile. I know my boss at the Train Depot has to deal with customers who don't understand why it takes so long to get stuff done ( some vendors take many MONTHS to send him parts, namely MTH, Lionel is like next day, why? ). Anyway, he's stressed out too over dealing with customers who think it should be fixed or repaired in days, or just weeks ( they always think they're at the front of the line, like there's no OTHER customers getting repairs done, either ... sheesh ). Model train repairs is a tough business , just from the two months I've been in it.  But it's still fun doing repairs so far.
Anyway, John, hopefully I can make you feel better when our trade for the Yellowstone is complete and you have it cradled in your hands. That'll be a happy moment for both of us. Get well, my new friend.
Jerry
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 5:12:28 PM
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Hi EM-1,
Stress is a killer all by itself, so I think you have made the right choice in cutting back.
Thanks for all of your informative posts.
I wish you a speedy recovery.
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 5:28:59 PM
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quote:John,
I wasn't aware that you weren't back up to speed after the surgery, but it makes sense that it could knock the wind out of you for some time. Perhaps you bit off more than you could chew... understandable when you're trying to make a buck. If you do start the business up again, I suggest limiting the number of jobs you accept to an amount you feel you can handle.
Good to know all our kibitzing has done some good!
Originally posted by NickelPlate759Â -Â November 04 2013Â :Â 4:36:52 PM
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Nelson, that's the thing.. I wasn't back up to speed!!!!! I'm still working on my recovery, I'm 100% physically, BUT as far as cardiac strength, I'm not! I haven't been released to resume a regular day, or work day yet....I actually have 2 - 3 months yet to go!
And then knowing this, ALL of you guys here, know and are VERY respectful of it, its those that have no idea and then have the gull of the locals to just stop by, need work, or here take this I want it back next week, the last one that stopped by my house, literally tried to push something in for repairs and just would not except, I wasn't open or excepting of new work! And it was as my signature says......Some people.....AND to then, ya just can't.....
Sadly, these are the things that's brought this on.... and then for my wife to get involved to filter this all out while I was at the worst of the recovery, and still to this day she tells me that shes talks with at least 2 locals a week.....is just horse crap....I have it everywhere, locally and on here, my surgery is well known. My recovery is also well known locally, to keep everyone up to speed and how things are going....So, honestly, theres no excuse for it all. Just out and out disrespect and no care as long as they get what they want....
BUT again, please understand, it has nothing to do with ANYONE here, all of this is locally.....the local guys are the worst, honestly, a few think because they are local they can make absurd requests and demands, and think I'm going to jump at their whim.....
The group here are so different that way it makes it GREAT, and a laugh and even the silly crap is a way of getting "away" from it all but still remaining in the hobby, if that makes sense, it makes the hobby as it should be....
~John
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 5:43:51 PM
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quote:Obviously some people don't understand what it takes out of you when you have a health hit, they are thinking, a couple weeks, he should be ok, and don't understand the long-term effects as we get older. My wife just quit her job <full time> due to stress, both from the work, her boss, and a hostile co-worker. I'm hoping things will work out here! As for you, John, take care of yourself, you have to think of yourself first now, and finish off the business you had, and then just do for yourself for awhile. I know my boss at the Train Depot has to deal with customers who don't understand why it takes so long to get stuff done ( some vendors take many MONTHS to send him parts, namely MTH, Lionel is like next day, why? ). Anyway, he's stressed out too over dealing with customers who think it should be fixed or repaired in days, or just weeks ( they always think they're at the front of the line, like there's no OTHER customers getting repairs done, either ... sheesh ). Model train repairs is a tough business , just from the two months I've been in it. But it's still fun doing repairs so far.
Anyway, John, hopefully I can make you feel better when our trade for the Yellowstone is complete and you have it cradled in your hands. That'll be a happy moment for both of us. Get well, my new friend.
Jerry
Originally posted by AMC_Gremlin_GTÂ -Â November 04 2013Â :Â 4:53:43 PM
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Jerry,
Your boss at the hobby shop job has it EXACTLY right......I had to stop N scale for this very reason. I have had a few "repairs before my surgery and even now that the owners don't understand, you just can't buy parts anymore, EVEN the new stuff! Why? Its ALL made in freakin' China and they think, well order it from them, then? REALLY? For one, I myself can't order direct, as I don't know the Chinese based company a lot of the times, and 2, the cost of over seas shipping, the customer of this "repair" with the cost after that, would! Well, toss it in the trash as the cost at that point, would triple if not quadruple in cost. MY COST.....
THEN when I state the cost, I'm to absorb the shipping as I'm "big business" and then when I say its your item and your the only order, I can't break the cost of shipping up between customers then as that eases the brunt of it a bit when theres multiple orders going to one place....THEN, they don't want to pay installations, as that's adds to their repair o.. so, I'm to make nothing for my time?
This is the issues of ALL the New England, locals..... Thrifty, well to do, that make more in a week then I used to make in 2 weeks both at a regular job, AND my shop! AND thats with fair prices from me! NOT over priced wages! And deals to boot, and I still made to much to these people?
As much as I hate top say it, New Englanders are all at the speed of light.....And want instant gratification just as fast, and as a custom builder, that just don't happen!
Its just sad that there are those, specially locals, (I could understand those a distance away to not know) but these guys, are all aware....and still doesn't....BUT, it'll get better, as I'm not going to rush out anything for them and the things you guys have, as far as trades even, are the first to go, why? your the respectful ones! Your the ones to see, and know, and actually care! That's a BUNCH more then I can say for those locally!
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I have to mention, one of our own right here on the Forums, Richard, your out there some where, this DOES NOT include you, guys hes a local and thee only one not into all this speed of light, instant gratification, crap and knows and understands, and I must say, came to visit me while I was in the hospital at the time of my surgery, so Richard, if your out there my friend, this excludes in this whole mess, hes amoung the "few" stated on the website......
~John
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Do NOT try to Idiot-Proof anything!!!! God, will simply create a better......IDIOT!
Edited by - EM-1 on November 04 2013 8:52:50 PM
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 5:59:20 PM
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Jerry, apologies... I misinterpreted your post and thought you were talking about people on this thread, not his customers. 
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 6:09:25 PM
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| Hey, John, send me a PM, I might have something else you want.
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 6:58:24 PM
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Hey John. Sorry to hear about all the issues with the business (and your health for that matter). Everything you've mentioned sounds like the classic problems of customer service...there are ALOT of stupid, entitled people out there. I've worked the past couple summers in the landscaping drive-thru at a big-box hardware store. You don't know how unbelievably helpless/clueless/entitled people can be until you've worked in some form of retail/customer service. Having a contractor try to talk you into using a forklift to put 10 000 lbs of pavers in the back of his F150 pick-up truck, while middle aged b*tch yells at you because she can't lift a 10lb bag of mulch on her own...
Trying to imagine owning a business like yours where you have to do fragile detail work while dealing with people like that? Unbelievable. The fact that they'd try to get your wife involved? Ridiculous (although I can't say it surprises me that much...).
All that being said, I hope you can find nothing but fun in model railroading from here on, and I look forward to seeing what new trains and buildings you post here.
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Posted - November 04 2013 : 9:19:50 PM
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| so sorry th hear this
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Posted - November 05 2013 : 3:33:34 PM
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Hi john
Sounds like you are still having problems. As you know I too have had bypass surgery and it was 12 weeks before I was allowed to lift anything heavier than a piece of paper, let alone drive. after 6 months I was allowed to return to work on a "lite duty desk work only" That lasted only a week before they began pushing me to do more and more, and the stress kept building. I talked with my doctor about the stress and he helped a little but advised me to avoid any stressful situations. So after some long and hard soul searching, I retired. that was 4 years ago. I still get a little stress now and then, but when I recognize it I tune it out and walk away. You sound like you are debating whether to close up shop altogether or not. This is tough to do, especially when ther are bills to consider. Just don't leave us old friend. And if people cant understand then "screw em" If you don't take care of number 1, you won,t be able to take care of anybody else.
Don't get worked up in a lather over people who don't care about you. I know it is hard at first but it gets somewhat easier as time goes on. speak to your doctor about this and let him help if he can.
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Posted - November 05 2013 : 3:47:41 PM
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| the most important thing is you, not a website,take care my good friend,and enjoy life and this hobby
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Posted - November 05 2013 : 9:48:42 PM
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i wish you the very best. without your health, you don't have anything. take care of you for once.
jerry
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Posted - November 14 2013 : 12:51:53 PM
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Thanks guys. you all can not imagine how difficult it has been over the years!!!! Eric, you know, what you say is true! Sadly, I been "dealing" with it, since 1988! Believe that? Nothing surprises me any more.....
THEN I worked a regular job too, and wound up dealing with the public again, as I worked for the New Hampshire Liquor commission, doing maintenance, and that put me right in the views of a bunch of the public, ad really, showed just how entitled and stupid people can really be!
But its done for now, Its over and things are clearing out, which is a good and leaves me with a feeling of accomplishment.
Leo,
yes, sort of,. I'm 100% physically, healed as far as "wounds" are concerned but I'm having other issues, with stress and the dangers of that. NOT real bad, but if let alone could potentially become bad.....And was told to lesson the amount of stress in my life that "I" could control......And not long after that, the crap hit the fan.....That's about the time the people came sworming in.....
Ken,
All is good at this point, and taking t easy, getting things done and feeling of winning a battle, so..... This will allow me to enjoy the hobby again as I once did.....Not being "beholding" to anything feels good all by itself....you know?
Jerry,
I plan to take care of myself, you know it man! Thing is, I have too, I got a family to see through as well, and to see what I can do in it for them as well....And to live to see my daughter grown is all I want to know and feel she can strive....(I got some teaching as a parent to do).....BUT, she is only going to be 9 in January......so.....
But in order to do this, I have to allow myself to heal and build my cardiac stamina to go on to more and possibly bigger things......I just can't stress out over the fact that health is going to limit me somewhat and I have to remember this.....From here on out anyway!
~John
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